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12:27

We all know how great it feels to receive gifts. However, the joy of getting is short-lived. Our lives are richer when we share, and that great inner satisfaction comes from helping others to better their lives. . Giving of our possessions is a little easier to understand because when we just do that we’re aware of just parting with stuff. The exchange can be really empty because there isn’t a depth of relating that is present. Sometimes the ego comes in and says; “Why are you giving what is yours? What are we gaining from it? Will I be losing what I worked hard to get?” Truly giving from the heart fills your life with joy and nourishes your soul. Giving provides an intrinsic reward that’s far more valuable than the gift

Giving takes you out of yourself and allows you to expand beyond earthly limitations.

Academic research and thousands of years of human history confirm that achieving meaning, fulfillment, and happiness in life comes from making others happy, and not from being self-centered.

Why give?

When people are asked why they give, the readiest answers include: God wants me to; I feel better about myself; others need, and I have; I want to share; it’s only right. The question I would ask is how did you feel? I imagine you felt very pleased with yourself and happy inside. It has been my experience that when you’re focused on giving to others you’re less likely to become consumed by your own concerns and challenges. Giving provides an opportunity to look beyond our own world and see the bigger picture. A great perspective can be achieved by stepping out of our own world and venturing into the world of other people. Your worries and challenges may not seem as significant when compared to other people’s situations.

The act of giving kindles self-esteem and brings happiness. Scientists have discovered that happiness is related to how much gratitude you show.

The power of giving

Giving is one of the best investments you can make towards achieving genuine happiness. True giving comes from the heart, with no expectation of reciprocation. You’ll find that the more you give, the more you’ll receive. The power of giving is manifested in the kindness and generosity that you bestow on someone else. When you give to another unselfishly, it is love expressed at its purest form. The power of giving, according to neuroscience, is that it feels good.

If you find yourself feeling unhappy, try making someone else happy and see what happens. If you’re feeling empty and unfulfilled, try doing some meaningful and worthwhile work and see how you feel. The catch is that you must do this work with passion and enthusiasm.

The rewards of giving are priceless. If you want to have happiness, you need to give happiness. If you want love, you need to give love. It is only in giving that you receive. No matter what your circumstances in life, you have the ability to give. I encourage you to look for opportunities where you can give and help others. The gift of joy will come to you when you give of yourself to others. That’s what life is all about. Let’s practice and commit our lives to giving. Try it! It works!

So whether it’s a friend in need of a listening ear or a family member in need of a helping hand, don’t underestimate the incredible gift you have to offer of …

· Just being there.

· Just showing up

· Just listening

· Just showing you care

· Just giving that hug

· That smile

· That helping hand

· That pat on the back

· That word of encouragement…

Here's to a life full of Abundance!

YOU CAN'T EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT TOO!

11:14

So am reading articles on a recent publication by a young lady on her affair gone bad and public with a married public figure. Mixed feelings from every angle, those who are partisans and those who are against.
And I got thinking, what did she really expect to come from this illicit affair with a married man. I have no intention of judging any situation or anyone but truth be told that was one BIG mistake.

Many of us young ladies are yet to wake from unrealistic dreams of already made Prince Charming or knight in shinning armor.

What will make a young girl with all her potential settle for dating a married man?
I will tell you, it's a quest for the unrealistic that will lead us down that path. We want a man who can make us comfortable, secured and someone we are not responsible for! We want the good life but let someone else pay for it after all it's not for free!
When we get carried away by peer pressure or desires and quest for 'things' we are easy preys.

A virtues woman is one that is ambitious,creative,hardworking,productive,honorable,humble,faithful. The pride of her family,community, and husband or children eventually.
A woman who based on an understanding of the power of the multi tasking ability of a woman, can build her dreams from nothing but faith,focus,confidence,perseverance and hard work.

We are women with purpose and this purpose when fueled becomes the passion that drives us!
We can't settle for less because we know there is much more and more importantly there is the original man meant for us. He may not be a refined public figure with an eight figured earning, or private jets and fleets of cars, but he is just right for us and he compliments and honors us!

Don't be a victim of the immediate because change is the only constant there is! What you see today might not be tomorrow.
Be careful of the decisions and choices you make today because they will determine and shape your tomorrow.

You may be wondering why I speak thus? Experience they say is the best teacher but I say there are some experiences that can be avoided.
Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.

You can't eat your cake and have it too!

I THINK MYSELF HAPPY

12:10

We live in a fast lane world where everything is going at the speed of light. No one has the time anymore to idle about or waste. We are all running helter skelter trying to meet up goals,dreams,ambitions we have set for ourselves.
In as much as we try to meet up we seem to be falling back and situations for the most part get out of hands! How many of us can count the number of times we thought we almost got it and then suddenly...BAM, everything crumbled! We are back to square one!
This is the rhythm that has set in,in our world today and many are living with an I almost got it or a one day i will attitude!
Attitude! Dats what am think about; a Wise Man I know,love and esteem once said 'your response to the circumstances in your life are more important than the circumstances themselves'
Situations and circumstances are inevitable he said but our response and attitude towards the situation is a choice we can and must make!
There is a saying that goes 'two wrongs can't make a right' negative response to negative situation equals negative outcome, no more no less.
We are the masters of our own destinies and we have received from God this wonderful apparatus called the mind with limitless abilities.
the attitude of the mind is important because where the mind goes the man follows.
Attitude is our response,thought pattern built as a result of the knowledge we possess of ourselves and our environment.
What we perceive and are conscious of inevitably become our experience in life! Take a moment and reflect, where you are in life right now, the people you know, you once thought and accomodated them, as such the have become your present reality.
What are you thinking about now with regards to the situation you are facing? Are you focusing on how bad things are,how helpless you are,how unfortunate you are,how the bank is going to come on you,how your family hates you...
We have unfortunately, shifted the responsibility of making choices in our lives on others, some of us to parents, spouses,siblings,teachers,doctors,employers,pastors etc we want others to carry the responsibility of choosing so we can apportion blames later on when things go wrong.
But the opposite is true as well,have you ever heard of 'as a man thinketh in his heart,so is he?' The predominant thoughts of our minds are the experiences of our lives in time. The content of our minds will inevitably flow out as experiences in our lives.
What are thinking about because like a Wise Woman I know once said 'you need to catch yourself thinking, and think about the things you are thinking'
The human mind has a natural inclination towards evil and will first accept as true the negative, it is up to us to train our minds to think good, acceptable and perfect thoughts! The prosperity of the mind is one of the most powerful forms of prosperity, not material prosperity.
Feed your mind with,inspired books,Faith filled literature, watch inspiring movies or videos,visit and associate with friends of like mind,study the lives of those you admire, take steps towards becoming what you seen but it first of all starts with what you are thinking...
You think like a mediocre person, you will live like one
Think like a grasshopper, u will eat the leaves
Think poor, u live poor!
I do not permit people,temporal situations and circumstances determine who I am. I cannot make life lasting decisions based on temporal occurrences.its not because I do not have money in my pocket now that I say I am a poor person. Attitude!!

"I may not be where I want to be but at least am not where I used to be"! Dr Shawn Smith

I choose to think myself Happy, strong,prosperous,sound in body,soul and Spirit,favored by all,loved beyond measure, cherished,accepted,blessed,gifted,beautiful,endowed,efficient,effective...

Attitude determines Altitude!

GRATITUDE FOR EVERYTHING by Leila Kigha

16:17

I don’t know if like me, you have had for the most part of your life neglected most if not everything around you. Living a life where you always are in expectation of something better to happen tomorrow, to the extent that you forget and fail to see the wonderful things and people, God has so graciously gifted you with.
Personally I have spent a lot of time looking at “bigger and important” things and I failed for the most part to appreciate the beautiful gifts of life. Many of you reading this might attest to this; that we take for granted the family, friends, children, husbands, wives, colleagues, acquaintances, etc we have been privileged to have. We assume most of the time they know that we care about them and that God knows our hearts. This in itself is not wrong but it is not sufficient.

It is so easy to loose sight of the little things that God sends our way , just because we are so caught up in our expectations of perfection that we fail to see the though not perfect but important gift God has given us.
Dr Shawn Smith recently said something that got me thinking “everything and everyone in your life is a gift from God”
I realized how passive i had been towards the people, opportunities etc that have been presented to me; rather I spent more time, looking at what is not working.
When was the last time you said in faith and with all sincerity I love and appreciate you, to your wife, husband, children, friends, mother, father etc?

It may seem so small but I can tell you it makes all the difference, as a personal brand consultant, I will say it is one of the aspects that make your brand stand out. Hand written notes for example, this is one of the ways to add a personal touch or “you” to your communication. Your audience or loved one will connect to a word you write out yourself than an impersonal gift of flowers, jewellery etc chosen and sent by your secretary for example.

Like Dr Shawn said and i quoted in my last post “if you put your heart in what you are doing with your hands, your heart will do what your hands can’t do”

Let me tell you a story, true story; I have been wondering recently about someone so dear to me and how I was going to bridge the gap that had grown so wide between us because of neglect, but thanks to this consciousness, i sent a text message to that person in all sincerity appreciating them for the gift they are to me. Lo and behold before I knew it, a response of gratitude and appreciation as well came back.

This is not to say you must expect a response in return but gratitude for everything and everybody in your life will add more life to your years.

This is a little exercise we were given and I will also like to share it with you, take out time today and be thankful for everything in your life! EVERYTHING

Gratitude is our most appropriate response to the grace of God we have received!!!
Let me end by saying I am grateful you are reading this note and you are a part of my life!!!

BRAND ADDICTS

12:10

Consciously or unconsciously we all are brand addicts!!!

We live our lives daily depending on the services, brands we have grown to trust offer us.Whether you agree with this or not,there are services or products you have become dependent on and this for three principal reasons; authenticity, relevance and differentiation. Take me for example, there was a time when i was helpless without my blackberry phone. It had through the years become my most faithful and trusted companion.I evolved from curve to bold to torch etc and with each innovation I felt more comfortable with the brand. It was and still is, from my point of view, very practical,user friendly and fun etc. Any where any time and I am ready to deliver required services.prior to this I was less effective and inefficient.I no longer needed to be in my office to work.My blackberry phone permitted me to carry my office around. Now this is not to say other phones or gadgets aren't great (am using an SG tab at the moment lol). They are and i would recommend you stick to that which delivers and adds value to your service, but I got introduced to blackberry at a point where I was getting fed up with the pace at which I was going because I was confined to working in a given location.the fact that it could permit me get most of my work done while on the move all the time made it a relevant and indispensable tool for business. Many of you like me have brands you have become addicted to, not necessarily because of the beauty or buzz around the product or service, but because they are authentic, you can relate to them, they are relevant because they meet a need and they are different and unique in the service they offer. These three aspects; authenticity, relevance and differentiation are all qualities that make for a strong personal brand.

Personal branding contrary to some opinions is not self aggrandizement based on false impressions;it is coming to terms with the real and authentic you , which is usually the most time consuming and important aspect of (discovering your personal brand in my opinion,) and communicating this as your unique promise of value to your market place. When this is achieved, you effortlessly become the brand everyone can trust and one to identify with. Like Simon Sinek says it, people end up buying why you do what you do and why is usually what makes you relevant or unique.

Make no mistake, your brand is a constant expression of your unique promise of value, be it at home or in the office, in a supermarket or a barbers shop. You are either gaining trust or loosing it.
When next you set to doing something, remember you are either going to increase dependability like my blackberry phone or just be one of the millions in the crowd trying to survive.

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YOU CAN'T EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT TOO!

I THINK MYSELF HAPPY

"I may not be where I want to be but at least am not where I used to be"! Dr Shawn Smith

I choose to think myself Happy, strong,prosperous,sound in body,soul and Spirit,favored by all,loved beyond measure, cherished,accepted,blessed,gifted,beautiful,endowed,efficient,effective...

Attitude determines Altitude!

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HAPPINESS : AN INSIDE JOB

MUM PRENEURS WORK LIFE BLEND!!!

GIVING OF YOURSELF

YOU CAN'T EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT TOO!

I THINK MYSELF HAPPY

"I may not be where I want to be but at least am not where I used to be"! Dr Shawn Smith

I choose to think myself Happy, strong,prosperous,sound in body,soul and Spirit,favored by all,loved beyond measure, cherished,accepted,blessed,gifted,beautiful,endowed,efficient,effective...Attitude determines Altitude!

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I choose to think myself Happy, strong,prosperous,sound in body,soul and Spirit,favored by all,loved beyond measure, cherished,accepted,blessed,gifted,beautiful,endowed,efficient,effective...

Attitude determines Altitude!